Traits of good wife

A practicing/righteous Muslimah who is always conscious of Allah and is obeying Him and following His commandments will ultimately be considered as a good wife because she will look after her connection with ALLAH first and she will make sure that her husband maintains the connection with Allah in all best possible ways.

A practicing Muslimah will maintain her faith and seek knowledge in order to refresh her Imaan as well as to attain the pleasure of Allah. She maintains the ties of kinship and serves her family members. She will always reflect upon the verses of the Qur’an and implement it in her life. She has the best of character and conduct and works each day upon it by seeking dua. She tries her best to enjoin good and forbid evil. Her first priority will always be to please her Creator. She does not compare her life with other women. She is happy with what Allah has provided her. 

As Allah Subhanu Wa Ta’ala has mentioned in the Glorious Qur’an- “Good men are for good women” (Surah Nur, V-26) Allah will bestow upon the practicing Muslimah a righteous and pious husband who will help her in drawing her closer to her Maker. So ultimately she will become the best companion of her husband as she too will remind him to fear Allah at all times. This is the responsibility and mandatory upon both of them because when both will call each other to Allah, then Allah will instill love between them for His sake.

Here are some tips in order to be a perfect wife:

1.       OBEDIENCE TO ALLAH: A perfect wife is always obedient to Allah. He is her first priority. She always takes measures to draw herself closer to Allah. She keeps up with the commandments of her Lord and always fulfills them on time. When a woman will be obedient to her Maker, she will encourage her husband towards goodness and perform all kinds of righteous deeds and by this, both will earn His reward in this world and the next in abundance. She remembers this Hadith often: “The prophet said- If a woman prays 5 times a day, fasts the month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband; it will be said to her- enter paradise from the gate you wish.”(Tirmidhi)

2. She follows the best example of our beloved Nabi SAW and walks upon his path. In Al-Qur’an, Allah says, “Indeed in the Messenger of Allah you have an excellent example to follow”. She always reflects upon the life of Muhammad SAW. 

3. Seeking knowledge– It is fardh about every Muslim to seek beneficial knowledge and apply it in our lives. The knowledge that is not applied becomes a waste of time and effort. We should remember we will be asked about the knowledge that we gain and then how much did we practice it. “Say: if you love Allah, follow me and Allah will love you.”

4.  Her role models are the wives of our beloved Prophet: She keeps up with reading beneficial books and implementing the lessons in her life in order to be a good wife. She listens to beneficial audios and watching beneficial videos. She stays away from the world of entertainment and keeps herself focused on Allah, her meeting with Him and her family.

5. Never complains– A perfect wife is grateful for all the blessings that Allah Ta’ala has bestowed upon her. She never complains about any issue and always practices patience in all her circumstances. Remember the Hadith when Prophet Ibrahim asked about the conditions of the household to the wife of his son Ismail A.S. Then as she replied in negative that was an ungrateful attitude, he simply told her to inform Ismael A.S to ‘change the doorstep’ of the household with that he meant divorcing her. As Ismael A.S did as said by his beloved father. After he remarried, the same scenario took place, and when Ibrahim A.S  asked the new wife of Ismail A.S about the same, she replied in affirmative even when they did not have that much to eat. Still, she was satisfied with the little and appreciated the blessings of Allah. Therefore, Ibrahim A.S was satisfied and told her to inform Ismael A.S to ‘keep the doorstep’. This is clear proof of how grateful, content a woman should be. 

6.       Pleases her husband: Among the major commandments of ALLAH, it is obliged upon every Muslim woman to make efforts to please her husband in all possible ways. She knows that after her marriage, her husband is her door to Jannah and she will gain it by pleasing him; so she leaves no chance to satisfy him. When he comes home tired with all his work, she welcomes him with a smile on her face and supports him in all matters. She is his best companion. Reminds him to fear Allah, to remain patient at times of hardship. “The women who die in the state of her husband is pleased with her will enter paradise” (Hadith) 

7.       She does not involve too much with the excessive usage of social media. Her social life does not affect her life and she does not let it busy or coming between herself and her husband. She gives proper required attention to him to all of his talks, concentrates on every single sentence and gives the beneficial answers in response.

8.       She encourages him to earn halaal earnings and never let him get involved in any impermissible work that will destroy his relationship with ALLAH or incur Allah’s wrath. Rather she encourages him to give daily sadaqah in order to attain the infinite blessings and pleasure of Allah both in this world and the next.

9.       She does not spend excessively and unnecessarily. She takes care of all his property and belongings and secures his wealth.

10.       She protects herself when her husband is not there. She dresses up only for her husband and maintains and protects her chastity in all the circumstances and keeps it safe only for him. She protects her honor. 

11.   She remains in services of him, be it with serving delicious food or the great words to develop his capabilities and always peaks words of motivation and inspiration to increase his Imaan. 

I ask Allah to make our practicing Muslim sisters the best wife whom their husband is pleased with so that they can easily enter paradise. Aameen.